I thought I would share Nikki's Blog this week. It's GREAT
http://dflenergyhealer.blogspot.com/2017/07/searching-for-spirit-addiction-energy.html?spref=fb
Please read and share
Post Scripts to my Book "The Self Help Book for People Who Hate Self Help Books"
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Monday, July 24, 2017
Wednesday, June 21, 2017
My Kia Blog about your car and the heat.
I thought I would share my Kia Blog from today across the board. This is good advise for any car owner.
http://cashatkia.blogspot.com/
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Wednesday, May 24, 2017
In a world of Tech....
We forget that a lot of what we do is reliant on user names and passwords.
My parents are both getting up in years, and as a result, there are medical issues that happen. Life can change over night, and fortunately nothing has happened yet that warrant any "drastic action" on my part. But, as parents get older, it is important that someone in the family, be it a child or sibling or even a close trusted friend have all the information needed to make a transition as smooth as possible.
Many people will leave it to the attorney to handle the estate, but inevitably the issue of user name and/or password will pop up somewhere. Bank accounts, insurance, even utilities. You, as the relative or friend, need to sit down with your parent / senior friend and get a list of all accounts that have user names and passwords. Names of lawyers, auto mechanics, Doctors, insurance agents.... anything you can think of that may pop up. If they change the password on an account, it should be updated on the list. Ideally, if the parent or friend is not comfortable giving this information to you, they need to have it where you can get to it in case of death, coma, or any other reason that they can no longer take care of their affairs. This makes it easier to wrap up loose ends.
I know this sounds like common sense, but there are many many families out there that do not plan for the future. We don't like to talk about death, but it is waiting for all of us. Make it easier on your loved ones to cope in what will already be a mega stressful time. If you have older parents or siblings, make sure you have the information you need to get through the situation. Have a family meeting, talk about it and I promise you will all rest better for it.
Have a great day!
My parents are both getting up in years, and as a result, there are medical issues that happen. Life can change over night, and fortunately nothing has happened yet that warrant any "drastic action" on my part. But, as parents get older, it is important that someone in the family, be it a child or sibling or even a close trusted friend have all the information needed to make a transition as smooth as possible.
Many people will leave it to the attorney to handle the estate, but inevitably the issue of user name and/or password will pop up somewhere. Bank accounts, insurance, even utilities. You, as the relative or friend, need to sit down with your parent / senior friend and get a list of all accounts that have user names and passwords. Names of lawyers, auto mechanics, Doctors, insurance agents.... anything you can think of that may pop up. If they change the password on an account, it should be updated on the list. Ideally, if the parent or friend is not comfortable giving this information to you, they need to have it where you can get to it in case of death, coma, or any other reason that they can no longer take care of their affairs. This makes it easier to wrap up loose ends.
I know this sounds like common sense, but there are many many families out there that do not plan for the future. We don't like to talk about death, but it is waiting for all of us. Make it easier on your loved ones to cope in what will already be a mega stressful time. If you have older parents or siblings, make sure you have the information you need to get through the situation. Have a family meeting, talk about it and I promise you will all rest better for it.
Have a great day!
Thursday, March 30, 2017
Sometimes You are just at a loss...What to do, What to do?
We start everything with good intentions. We go to the gym every other day for a month, then by month three we are going only when we feel guilty about not going. We give up bad eating for a month until we lose that 5 pounds and then it's back to the Snickkerdoodles and Lattes. It's the same with a blog. You go into it and say, I will write every day or every other day. Something deep and meaningful. But alas, it is not that easy... especially when you see so much crap out there, and you try to avoid being part of that big old river of crap. That is why I felt I needed to write something today. The problem being, I don't really have anything to touch upon. I don't want to get involved in writing about politics, because it does not matter what side you are on, whatever you express is going to draw negative energy from one side or another. You can't win. So I chose to keep that energy out of my life.
I don't talk religion, because that melting pot is dangerous ground as well. You get labeled as racist, which makes no sense at all, because religion is not race.
You can't talk about crime because again, even if the facts point to a certain race or gender, you are racist.
You can't talk about lifestyle (or life choice / gender identity) because then you are labeled "something or other phobic."
Personally I don't care if you agree with anything I ever say or not. You are entitled to your thoughts as I should be to mine. But, If one expresses an opinion that is different from yours, blasting a blogger with hate comments serves no purpose. Instead of spewing hate in one line comments, why not start a blog of your own and spell out your concerns. Ahhh, the problem there is you don't want to get the hate comments either. It's a vicious circle which is why I don't write too much anymore.
Granted, I don't get a lot of hate comments, because I try to keep my blog's topics along the lines of interesting stuff rather than op-eds.
I draw my observations on reading other people's blogs and seeing some of the comments. It's terrible and disrespectful. I am sure if some of these people met these bloggers face to face that they would not dare to actually say some of the things they say in the anonymous world of the internet.
So, I suppose I will limit this blog to Music industry advise, and the occasional life experience. (Oh, and since I sell Kia, I will answer any questions you have about these wonderful vehicles).
A revamp is in order, and I am going to take a little time to figure this out.
In the meantime. Be nice.
Have a great day!
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Wednesday, February 1, 2017
No B Side
As an observer of all things going on around me, it appears that the media has lost the fact there there is a B side to all that is going on in the world right now.
Let me clarify. "B Side" is a music industry term that originates from when record labels release 45s. One song on each side. and A side (Which was supposed to be the hit song) and a B side which featured another song on the album that was good but not being considered as an A side single. So, you played the A side song and the B side may NEVER get heard.
Funny thing, though, sometimes people want to know what's on the B side. And occasionally, a B side song is a hit. Maybe a DJ at a radio station played it by mistake. It's happened many time in the course of music history. Google "B SIDE HITS" and you will be surprised at what songs charted that were never supposed to be hits.
Now, in the world of CDs and MP3, and streaming services, the B side is not a factor anymore and we now hear the Chart Cut and it's all we ever hear. (Listen to XM radio and tell me what the repeat rotation is) I was a radio DJ for many years. My luck was that they never made me follow the national rotation, and I was allowed to play what I wanted. So, I mixed it up a lot and played songs that you didn't hear a lot, but everyone remembered. The songs you don't hear anymore."
I have a point to all this. Really. It has to do with the news media.
We are in a time of great division. It is not the first time, and it will not be the last time. I don't choose sides, I observe what I perceive to be only A Side information. All the media seems to thrive on is the anger and the negative energy that is spewed forth by people who don't or won't accept the current world and political situation.
You see riots, and angry mobs, celebs who think they have the voice and ear of the people. And it's only so because the news media shoves it into your face and surrounds you with this hate and anger. All for ratings. Bear with me. If you are watching the news and there is rioting in the streets, and cars being set on fire, and you switch to the other news channel and see some warm and fuzzy story about happy people doing good things, do you shake your head and go back to the riots and anger because it's "more interesting?" It's like listening to the first 10 seconds of a B side single and deciding that the A side song is better because that's what the record company has chosen to give you. It's what the networks chose to broadcast because they know that you will watch.
I want to see the B side to all this hate and discontent. Show me the good. There is good in everything. It's the Yin and the Yang. You can not have one without the other. Problem is, we are only looking at the Yang. We need a little more Yin I think.
I used to counsel teens. At the beginning of a group session, which I KNEW was going to be all about bitching about their parents and their life, as teens are prone to, I would go around the room and tell them to give me a HAPPY before we started. It had to be thought out . Not "I'm happy to be here...or I'm happy the 49ers won the Superbowl. (It was a long time ago) It had to be a genuine, happy feeling. It was hard for them. They were so programmed to be negative that it was beyond them to think that they had anything at all going for them. But.. they managed in the end to come up with something thought provoking.
We have a higher power of some sort watching over us. I believe that. Sometimes we just need to turn off the constant A side and flip to the B side and see what is there. It might be a better song.
Have a great day.
Let me clarify. "B Side" is a music industry term that originates from when record labels release 45s. One song on each side. and A side (Which was supposed to be the hit song) and a B side which featured another song on the album that was good but not being considered as an A side single. So, you played the A side song and the B side may NEVER get heard.
Funny thing, though, sometimes people want to know what's on the B side. And occasionally, a B side song is a hit. Maybe a DJ at a radio station played it by mistake. It's happened many time in the course of music history. Google "B SIDE HITS" and you will be surprised at what songs charted that were never supposed to be hits.
Now, in the world of CDs and MP3, and streaming services, the B side is not a factor anymore and we now hear the Chart Cut and it's all we ever hear. (Listen to XM radio and tell me what the repeat rotation is) I was a radio DJ for many years. My luck was that they never made me follow the national rotation, and I was allowed to play what I wanted. So, I mixed it up a lot and played songs that you didn't hear a lot, but everyone remembered. The songs you don't hear anymore."
I have a point to all this. Really. It has to do with the news media.
We are in a time of great division. It is not the first time, and it will not be the last time. I don't choose sides, I observe what I perceive to be only A Side information. All the media seems to thrive on is the anger and the negative energy that is spewed forth by people who don't or won't accept the current world and political situation.
You see riots, and angry mobs, celebs who think they have the voice and ear of the people. And it's only so because the news media shoves it into your face and surrounds you with this hate and anger. All for ratings. Bear with me. If you are watching the news and there is rioting in the streets, and cars being set on fire, and you switch to the other news channel and see some warm and fuzzy story about happy people doing good things, do you shake your head and go back to the riots and anger because it's "more interesting?" It's like listening to the first 10 seconds of a B side single and deciding that the A side song is better because that's what the record company has chosen to give you. It's what the networks chose to broadcast because they know that you will watch.
I want to see the B side to all this hate and discontent. Show me the good. There is good in everything. It's the Yin and the Yang. You can not have one without the other. Problem is, we are only looking at the Yang. We need a little more Yin I think.
I used to counsel teens. At the beginning of a group session, which I KNEW was going to be all about bitching about their parents and their life, as teens are prone to, I would go around the room and tell them to give me a HAPPY before we started. It had to be thought out . Not "I'm happy to be here...or I'm happy the 49ers won the Superbowl. (It was a long time ago) It had to be a genuine, happy feeling. It was hard for them. They were so programmed to be negative that it was beyond them to think that they had anything at all going for them. But.. they managed in the end to come up with something thought provoking.
We have a higher power of some sort watching over us. I believe that. Sometimes we just need to turn off the constant A side and flip to the B side and see what is there. It might be a better song.
Have a great day.
Monday, January 23, 2017
I Have had to take a step back
I know it's been a couple of weeks since I have posted. With all that is going on right now, new President, people happy about it, people not happy about it, people acting like total asses as well as those making their voice heard, using their first amendment rights the right way, I thought I would just sit back and take it all in. I have been loath to write, because I don't like to get involved in politics in my blog if I can help it. That being said, let me express my concern with people who take an event like the inauguration of our President, (like him or not) and make it an excuse for senseless violence. We the people have the right to protest. It's a right given by our forefathers. It's a wonderful thing. BUT, if you are going to throw bricks through windows of a business whose only fault is that the building is in firing range, then you have no right to bitch when you are arrested and charged with rioting and vandalism. You should go to jail. Do not pass go! You are a punk.
There is talk of paid protestors, other countries promoting this kind of thing and celebs cheering it all on. I never thought in my life that I would agree with Michael Moore, but his statement rings true. If you want change, run for office. Start with your school board or City Council. Run for Congress or Senate, because it's not the other guy's responsibility to make the changes that you are passionate enough about to throw bricks through someone's business and drive up the cost of their goods. If you want change, get off your ass and make your voice heard through the right channels. Calmly and purposefully. Violence leads to fear...fear leads to hate, and hate leads to the dark side of the force. Peaceful protest will make your thoughts known. All for that! They will bring to the forefront all you are passionate about. Change starts with you. Raise YOUR head above the crowd. Don't think you can? What makes anyone in office different than you? Maybe THEY decided that they wanted to be the voice in the crowd that was heard. Love Trump or hate him. He made his voice heard. He told people what he was passionate about. God bless him for being that person.
So, these are my thoughts watching the events of the last few days. I don't choose sides, I am not worried about what MIGHT happen....Only what is today.
Have a great day!
There is talk of paid protestors, other countries promoting this kind of thing and celebs cheering it all on. I never thought in my life that I would agree with Michael Moore, but his statement rings true. If you want change, run for office. Start with your school board or City Council. Run for Congress or Senate, because it's not the other guy's responsibility to make the changes that you are passionate enough about to throw bricks through someone's business and drive up the cost of their goods. If you want change, get off your ass and make your voice heard through the right channels. Calmly and purposefully. Violence leads to fear...fear leads to hate, and hate leads to the dark side of the force. Peaceful protest will make your thoughts known. All for that! They will bring to the forefront all you are passionate about. Change starts with you. Raise YOUR head above the crowd. Don't think you can? What makes anyone in office different than you? Maybe THEY decided that they wanted to be the voice in the crowd that was heard. Love Trump or hate him. He made his voice heard. He told people what he was passionate about. God bless him for being that person.
So, these are my thoughts watching the events of the last few days. I don't choose sides, I am not worried about what MIGHT happen....Only what is today.
Have a great day!
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Sunday, January 8, 2017
Remember this when you look at ALL YOUR FRIENDS on Facebook...
I am currently writing a book. I have been working on it for quite a long time, because it's the kind of thing you have to write when the mood hits you, and you have a great thread of thought...much like a blog. It's a chance you take that anyone will be interested in what you have to say. I enjoy writing, and I hope to someday E publish this book. If one person reads it and it helps them, then it was worth taking the time to do.
The book is called The Self Help Book For People Who Hate Self Help Books (c)2016.....
I have read a ton of self help books, some great, some not so...but most have one thing in common. They are written by people that have a lot of letters after their names. All good...not dissing anyone. I am writing mine from just years of observation and experience. I would like to share one of the chapters with you here, just because social media is such a thing now. We are get pulled into the Facebook Rabbit Hole. So here we go. This chapter from the book is called:
The book is called The Self Help Book For People Who Hate Self Help Books (c)2016.....
I have read a ton of self help books, some great, some not so...but most have one thing in common. They are written by people that have a lot of letters after their names. All good...not dissing anyone. I am writing mine from just years of observation and experience. I would like to share one of the chapters with you here, just because social media is such a thing now. We are get pulled into the Facebook Rabbit Hole. So here we go. This chapter from the book is called:
But
I Have 4627 Friends on Facebook
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Okay.
Take a DEEP breath. All but about 12 of these people are not your
friends. Maybe a few more or less. Go through your "Friends"
on Face Book and write down the ones you would trust your kids, Dog
or Spouse with. Who can you call as a house sitter if you have to go
out of town? Yup. Short list. Multiply all this by the number of
friends on Twitter, Voxer, Snap Chat Yadda Yadda Yadda and you still
end up with about 12. So why are you sharing you most personal stuff
with total strangers? And why do they think you really care about
what they eat every 42 minutes? It's really gotten out of hand.
Okay, so I am an entertainer. I have a couple of Face Book pages. I
think I have a total of about 2500 "Friends" between the
two pages. I perform and send invites to everyone. I figure asses in
seats means ticket sales. But, at lets say, Christmas Time, if I
want to send out a personal greeting to people on my pages, there are
only MAYBE 30 people that I feel I know well enough to invade their
personal space. And some of them are iffy. Don't let the number of
"Friends" you have in cyber space lull you into a false
sense of being all
that.
We are really not that important to anyone but ourselves. We measure
our success in terms of likes,
shares
and comments.
We have all done it. We have liked some crap on Facebook that we
didn't spend more than a 10th
of a second looking at because the person is our “Friend” and we
want all his “Friends” to see that I am his “Friend”...What a
crock. In the great scheme of things, it's meaningless. There is no
personal contact. It's an illusion that we have all these friends
that we “Connect” with when we sitting at home in our underwear
at 2 AM looking at our Facebook page because we have forgotten how to
really communicate.
When
something goes wrong and we put it on Facebook or instagram or
Twitter, whatever your social media of choice, we get responses of
condolence, prayers, advise, whatever from all these people we don't
know. But how many of them are responding because they are really
praying for you, and how many are just doing it because you had 231
other people do it and they want to feel like they are part of the
collective conscience. That's all good and well if they actually say
a prayer
for you. How many times have YOU said someone was in your prayers
and never thought about them again??
As
a sales person, I sit and hand write 5 to 10 cards a day to clients
that have bought cars from me. People I work with are astounded by
this. That someone can actually sit down, with a pen and a blank card
and envelope and write...in
your own handwriting
mind you.....a couple of sentences to another human being. It does
not involve a keyboard, an e mail address or a data plan. It's
olden days
stuff. I actually had someone ask, “What do you do? Mail it?”
It's a damned shame. It's a shame that these guys are missing out.
I get calls from these clients thanking me for taking the time...(2
minutes) out of my day to think about them. Oh, and they come in and
buy another car.
I
have all my clients in an e mail database, I have a ton of them on
Facebook, and yes it would save a lot of time and postage to just
bulk email a big “How have you been” to 400 people at the same
time. But, it's just another email. Lost in 50 others they just got.
But when someone goes out and opens the mail box and there, nestled
among the bills and junk is a bright blue envelope, with their name
and address hand written upon it, well, That's special. Someone once
said, If you can count your friends on both hands, you can count
your REAL friends on just one hand, and out of those 5, maybe two are
true friends. Be careful who you share your thoughts, loves,
fears and food pictures with. All of it will be in cyber space, uh,
FOREVER!
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Hope you got something out of that. I hope to be done with the whole thing sometime this year!
Have a Great Day!
Saturday, December 31, 2016
Happy New year 4.543 billion years
Welcome The New Year!! 4.543 Billion +/- half a million.
We say it's 2017. It's nice to have a calender to track our 24 hour periods and 7 day weeks and 52 week cycles. Mother Earth, though, works on a different time cycle. The planet does not give a stuff about what year WE say it is. Only about how old she is, and she is old. She breathes, she groans, she inhales and exhales.
If she were only 2017 years old, she would still be an infant. Forming and volcanic and a place where this viral thing called man could have never survived. If you ask mother Earth, she will tell you she, at 4.5 Billion years old is but a not quite middle aged lady.
She has had many face lifts, both natural over billions of years, and some man made thanks to large earth moving equipment. She has been abused through cosmic bashing and atomic testing. She has been warm and cold, flooded and parched... but she maintains her dignity and her beauty in the cosmos. Not bad for a gal who is over 4.5 Billion years old.
So HAPPY 2017 to us, and happy 4.543 Billion to Mother Earth!
Have a great day
We say it's 2017. It's nice to have a calender to track our 24 hour periods and 7 day weeks and 52 week cycles. Mother Earth, though, works on a different time cycle. The planet does not give a stuff about what year WE say it is. Only about how old she is, and she is old. She breathes, she groans, she inhales and exhales. If she were only 2017 years old, she would still be an infant. Forming and volcanic and a place where this viral thing called man could have never survived. If you ask mother Earth, she will tell you she, at 4.5 Billion years old is but a not quite middle aged lady.
She has had many face lifts, both natural over billions of years, and some man made thanks to large earth moving equipment. She has been abused through cosmic bashing and atomic testing. She has been warm and cold, flooded and parched... but she maintains her dignity and her beauty in the cosmos. Not bad for a gal who is over 4.5 Billion years old.
So HAPPY 2017 to us, and happy 4.543 Billion to Mother Earth!
Have a great day
Wednesday, December 28, 2016
I Think (Part 3)
I THINK:
He who smiles in a crisis has found someone to blame.
Politicians and diapers should be both be changed regularly...all for the same reason
Light travels faster than sound. That is why some people seem bright until they open their mouth
The shinbone's purpose is to find furniture in the dark
God mus LOVE stupid people, or he wouldn't have made so many
Some people say 'If you can't beat 'em, join 'em' I say ' If you can't beat 'em, beat 'em, cause they will be expecting you to join them and you have the element of surprise....'
War does not determine who is right, only who is left
We have enough gun control. What we need is idiot control
Laugh at your problems....everyone else does
I did not fight my way to the top of the food chain to eat tofu
How is it one careless match can start a forest fire, but a whole box can't start a campfire.
The early bird gets the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese
Have a great day
He who smiles in a crisis has found someone to blame.
Politicians and diapers should be both be changed regularly...all for the same reason
Light travels faster than sound. That is why some people seem bright until they open their mouth
The shinbone's purpose is to find furniture in the dark
God mus LOVE stupid people, or he wouldn't have made so many
Some people say 'If you can't beat 'em, join 'em' I say ' If you can't beat 'em, beat 'em, cause they will be expecting you to join them and you have the element of surprise....'
War does not determine who is right, only who is left
We have enough gun control. What we need is idiot control
Laugh at your problems....everyone else does
I did not fight my way to the top of the food chain to eat tofu
How is it one careless match can start a forest fire, but a whole box can't start a campfire.
The early bird gets the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese
Have a great day
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Friday, December 23, 2016
Don't Worry..You are not in control of anything..........
Each day the human mind spends over 70% of it's time over thinking and worrying. That's a hell of a lot of time thinking about stuff that has not happened yet. Worry is one of the strongest "fear" emotions we have. We lose sleep, we have night sweats, we tend to think in worst case scenarios. And it can drive us to the nut house in a hurry.
The thing is, though, that if you look back on all the time you spent worrying about stuff, and the eventuality that the stuff you worried about never happened, what would you do with all that time that you wasted letting your brain take you hostage? If the 70% number is true, then you spend 265 days a year worrying about stuff. Over, say an 80 year life span, that 20,440 days, or 490,560 hours where you could be using your brain for something else.
Life is short. We have no time for herding cats.
The purpose of life is to be happy- Dalai Lama
We live in a world where the media works very hard to instill fear in us. Turn on the news and tell me how many happy stories do you hear in an hour? Don't get me wrong, the world is not what it used to be. We have threats everywhere. We always have, but now we have a media that can bring it to us in real time in 4K high Def. Our serenity is being attacked on all fronts. Here are some ways to deal with all this.
Meditate. Get into being one with your consciousness. Sit quietly and put processed thoughts out of your head. Concentrate of the sounds around you. The wind, the rain, the sound of the fly in the room. Live in the experience of now. Don't let the outside world allow your mind to wander. If you hear a plane, or a fire truck, or a dog barking in the distance, just accept it as what is instead of letting your mind go somewhere else. 15 minutes a day. Not easy, but with practice, you can get it.
Don't watch the news for long periods. .... We all need to know what is going on, but don't leave the news on in the background all day while you are pottering around the house. Watch the headlines, and get on with your day. Half the time, the news just pisses you off anyway, then you have to deal with anger too.
Stay off facebook for a day every week. OR set a no information time. Turn off from social media. Give it a rest. The world will continue to turn if you wait a day to like someone's post.
Sometimes, leave your phone at home. Before cell phones, we went along our merry way, and when we got home, we had an answering machine. We dealt with stuff then. As a result we saw more of the world around us.
Watch cartoons. No, seriously. Who can have a shitty day after watching Bugs, or Daffy, or the Flintstones....Great old cartoons are a way to get back to a simpler time. It really does take your mind off stuff. I believe if more adults watched cartoons once in a while, the world would be a better place.
Go for a walk. See the world around you. (A good time to keep your phone at home) It's a beautiful place, remember?
And last but not least, Don't worry..You are not in control of anything.
Merry Christmas
Friday, November 25, 2016
One Mouth and Two Ears
I have heard it said many times that we are given one mouth and two ears for a reason. If we listen twice as much as we talk, we might just learn something. I am more than willing to listen to you, as long as you are willing to listen to me. Just because you have a point of view, does not give you the right to try to force it down my throat. Speak your truth as you know it. I will listen, but please allow me the same respect, instead of picking and choosing a word or two that might offend you and then start in a tirade about why I need to think the way you do. I make my living listening to people. When you sell, if you learn to shut up, your customer will tell you exactly what you need to do to sell them...whatever you are selling....cars, trucks, houses, boats, airplanes or widgets. If you are planning your next sentence in your brain while they are talking to you, you will never be a good listener. Quiet your mind and concentrate on what the person is saying...then pause and think about it before you answer. The pause is very powerful in conversation. I allows you to think about your answer, and makes the other person switch from talking mode to listening mode.
I am a black belt at interrupting. I have tried to be more aware of this, because I have learned I hear more when my mouth is not moving. I call it the two way radio method of conversation. When you have a two way radio, you have to wait until the person on the other end says "over" signaling you that you can talk now. In return he has to do the same. A lot less gets misunderstood when everyone is listening.
Maybe next time you are having a conversation, used the "over" method silently to yourself when they are done speaking. Don't interrupt. You will have your chance to talk.
Have a great day!
Sunday, November 20, 2016
TO GROUP OR NOT TO GROUP...LEAVE ME OUTTA THIS
With the advent of modern technology, the chain letter was replaced by the chain email which was replaced with the chain Facebook post which has been replaced by the chain text. You know, the text where you are included with 65 other people wanting to have you reply or comment to everything from Boxer or Briefs, to political views, to saying Amen, Drinks at Bob's who's in?.... to countless situations...about this time of year you will be getting group texts about Cornbread or Rye Bread Stuffing...Merry Christmas or Happy Holidays...Turkey or Tofu...So and So is having a party, rsvp...yadda yadda yadda...
Point is, I don't mind getting a text from anyone about anything. My phone pings and I look at it, and at that point decide to respond or ignore. My bug bear is when I have to listen to my phone ping half a dozen times in a 2 minute period because everyone else is responding to the sender, and being part of the group, it is assumed that I give a crap about what everyone else thinks. "Text me back or you are not my friend..." What is this? Third grade? Here's a thought....Friends don't send friends stupid group texts!"
So, about now, dear reader, you are saying, just delete it and unjoin the thread. I have enough threads in my life that I should not HAVE to unjoin something that I did not join in the first place. There are times that group texts are easier for sharing things. At work, Everyone gets a daily sales report group texted to them. Fine. Necessary and expected. But when someone asked a question on that thread and everyone starts answering it's a pain in the ass. ding...ding...dingdingdingding....
It's part of life, can't be avoided, so, feel free to group text all you want, but don't feel bad if I don't reply.
While we are on the subject of annoying text messages, What is up with all this invasive advertising on your phone now? I can't go to Walmart, Home Depot, Bed Bath and Beyond or even McDonalds without my phone pinging, and a text ad saying you are at Walmart...look at these specials...Again, I could shut off my location access but WHY SHOULD I HAVE TO DO THAT??? Any thoughts? We will address this at another time.
Have a great day.
Wednesday, November 16, 2016
BAD DECISIONS MAKE FOR GREAT STORIES
There is a saying...The last words a Redneck says before he dies are "Hey, hold my beer and watch this"....Have you ever been part of a scenario where you KNOW that it is not going to end well, but you watch it unfold in slow motion just so you can tell the story later?
As we grow older and mature, we are less Kelsoish (Ref: That 70's show) and use a bit more common sense than we did when we were 18 and knew everything. We are no longer 10 feet tall and bullet proof. We have all made bad decisions at some point in our life. Seemed like a good idea at the time, but now? Not so good. It can be a life long thing like getting married to the wrong person, and not listening to that little voice in your head. As we grow older, we start to learn that the little voice knows what it is talking about.
Remember the old days when you used to regale your friends with the "weekend"...I know every one of us has told the story ..."I got hammered, threw up twice in the ficus tree, got into a brawl, left my pants .. I don't know where, and woke up in my car with the cops tapping on the window....................It was a blast, man" Bad decision, great story about jail.
Many of these decisions we make involve alcohol. The bad decision elixor. The juice of irresponsibility. The old "Sorry I trashed your house by driving my car into your living room. I was drunk..."
I have been sober for 34 years, so I can not use that excuse anymore. Now I just have to say, "Sorry, I'm just a dumbass I guess..."
I suppose all our kids and grandkids will all have great stories to tell based of really bad decisions. It's our rite of passage from know it all youth to I really don't want to know adulthood.
So today, with all my heart, I ask you to think twice about that bungee jump....
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Wednesday, November 9, 2016
Election is over, let's talk FOOD!
Election is over! (YAY) and we have a President Trump. Cheer if you like, Swear if you're pissed. Let's talk about Thanksgiving Dinner.This year, we are doing T-day a week or so earlier with relatives coming to town. As I am on the low carb / very little sugar diet, Holidays are going to be a bit different for me this year. First off, I have to stay away from the thing I wait all year for. My Martinelli's sparkling Cranberry/Apple juice. LOADED with sugars.
My inspiration is that I have dropped 23 pounds in about 6 weeks by doing nothing more than cutting out 90% of carbs and sugars. I DO feel better, and losing the weight has made it easier to RUN away from all those no no foods that tend to make me rounder.
I still allow myself a little dark chocolate every day and some carbs. But I have leaned that I do not have to eat the WHOLE loaf of french bread or the entire 1/4 pound chocolate bar.
So, for Thanksgiving this year it's non hormone fed turkey, cornbread stuffing, (Half a serving for me) Green Beans and a bit of cranberry. Easy on the gravy as it FAT FAT FAT, and and some organic mashed potato (half my usual amount).
To drink, I have gone to Club Soda and lime. Refreshing and bubbly.
Where people get slammed dieting during the holidays, is, of course, candies and cakes and pies and ice cream, and of course alcohol. (The 5 Holiday food groups). My weakness being the baked goods. I don't drink, so I don't pour on the sugar there. (Alcohol turns to sugar the minute it passes your teeth). I have given up doing the score card...you know, If I don't have this, I can have this...does not work, because you have no willpower. That is the key. Step away from the table. Here is my challenge. Today, I weigh 223.7 pounds (from about 246 6 weeks ago). My goal through the holidays is not so much to lose a whole lot more, (That would be nice, but it's a lot of pressure) but to maintain where I am and not gain. I will occasionally end a blog with today's weight. But I will not make blogs here about what I am eating...what a bore. Join me in the challenge. What the hell?
Here is something my wife told me that has helped a lot. Your divine beings watching over you take you literally when you say stuff. Being your spiritual guardians, they try to help you. So if you say "I have lost XX pounds on this diet," they will find the weight you lost and give it back to you. Instead, think of it as Releasing the weight instead of losing it. A simple mind thing, but hey, it works.
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Monday, October 31, 2016
I Think (Part 2)
I THINKWhat consumes your mind controls your life.
You should stop looking for happiness in the exact place you lost it
It's scary what a smile can hide.
The smarter you get, the less you speak.
The secret of having it all is believing that you already do.
You can still be a good person with a kind heart and still say "no".
You have two ears and one mouth for a reason.
Silence is an answer too.
Falling down is an accident. Staying down is a choice.
When nothing goes right, turn left.
Creativity is intelligence having fun.
Nothing haunts us like what we did NOT say.
The past is a place of reference, not a place of residence.
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Saturday, October 29, 2016
The biggest word in the English Language
I took a couple of days off. Mostly because of what is happening in the political landscape. I fear I would be caught in the whirlwind of speculation. It seems as though the News Channels don't report the news, really. If there is a breaking story of course they will report it. A cat stuck in a well, or a police car chase in California. That's all important breaking news. And of course, anything that has to do with the weather.
For the most part though, the talking heads spend a lot of time speculating and bringing in experts who further speculate, and of course the top guys who speculate on what the experts just speculated on. A lot of "What Ifs"
IF is the biggest word in the english language. Most things depend on IF. 'If I win the lottery, then....' or 'If so and so gets his promotion, then I might take his place on the food chain'... 'If my team wins the next three games they might take the championship'
If you meet the right person, if you make enough money, if you pray for it, if if if if if if............
Seems like you are leaving a lot of stuff to chance.
Here is a simple affirmation. You CAN change the outcome of a lot of things in YOUR life by just changing the word if to the word when. Call it what you want. Positive thinking, whatever. IT WORKS because it changes your perspective from victim to winner. From now on, say 'When I win the lottery' or 'when I get that promotion' The outcome may not be what you expected. Who knows, it might be better.
Have a great day!
Saturday, October 15, 2016
The Eskimo
The guy tell him a story...
"I was flying across the Tundra in a small plane, and we had to force a landing in the middle of nowhere. The pilot was ejected and died. I was stuck in the middle of a vast land. It was at least 4 or 5 day walk to anywhere that I knew of, and I had no food or water after using up whatever snacks and stuff there was on the plane. After sitting there for 2 days I figured I would pray to God to rescue me. I walked all day praying and praying, but nothing. No answer to my prayer...So I am convinced that your God does not exist."
The preacher smiled a bit, and said, "Surely you must believe. You are here, and alive and able to tell me this story."
The man scoffed a bit and said, "Naw, out of nowhere some Eskimo showed up and rescued me."
Never overlook your eskimos. They are everywhere. You just have to be aware of them. And all you have to do is ask. You are surrounded by beings of light. It's up to you to recognize them.
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