The book is called The Self Help Book For People Who Hate Self Help Books (c)2016.....
I have read a ton of self help books, some great, some not so...but most have one thing in common. They are written by people that have a lot of letters after their names. All good...not dissing anyone. I am writing mine from just years of observation and experience. I would like to share one of the chapters with you here, just because social media is such a thing now. We are get pulled into the Facebook Rabbit Hole. So here we go. This chapter from the book is called:
But
I Have 4627 Friends on Facebook
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Okay.
Take a DEEP breath. All but about 12 of these people are not your
friends. Maybe a few more or less. Go through your "Friends"
on Face Book and write down the ones you would trust your kids, Dog
or Spouse with. Who can you call as a house sitter if you have to go
out of town? Yup. Short list. Multiply all this by the number of
friends on Twitter, Voxer, Snap Chat Yadda Yadda Yadda and you still
end up with about 12. So why are you sharing you most personal stuff
with total strangers? And why do they think you really care about
what they eat every 42 minutes? It's really gotten out of hand.
Okay, so I am an entertainer. I have a couple of Face Book pages. I
think I have a total of about 2500 "Friends" between the
two pages. I perform and send invites to everyone. I figure asses in
seats means ticket sales. But, at lets say, Christmas Time, if I
want to send out a personal greeting to people on my pages, there are
only MAYBE 30 people that I feel I know well enough to invade their
personal space. And some of them are iffy. Don't let the number of
"Friends" you have in cyber space lull you into a false
sense of being all
that.
We are really not that important to anyone but ourselves. We measure
our success in terms of likes,
shares
and comments.
We have all done it. We have liked some crap on Facebook that we
didn't spend more than a 10th
of a second looking at because the person is our “Friend” and we
want all his “Friends” to see that I am his “Friend”...What a
crock. In the great scheme of things, it's meaningless. There is no
personal contact. It's an illusion that we have all these friends
that we “Connect” with when we sitting at home in our underwear
at 2 AM looking at our Facebook page because we have forgotten how to
really communicate.
When
something goes wrong and we put it on Facebook or instagram or
Twitter, whatever your social media of choice, we get responses of
condolence, prayers, advise, whatever from all these people we don't
know. But how many of them are responding because they are really
praying for you, and how many are just doing it because you had 231
other people do it and they want to feel like they are part of the
collective conscience. That's all good and well if they actually say
a prayer
for you. How many times have YOU said someone was in your prayers
and never thought about them again??
As
a sales person, I sit and hand write 5 to 10 cards a day to clients
that have bought cars from me. People I work with are astounded by
this. That someone can actually sit down, with a pen and a blank card
and envelope and write...in
your own handwriting
mind you.....a couple of sentences to another human being. It does
not involve a keyboard, an e mail address or a data plan. It's
olden days
stuff. I actually had someone ask, “What do you do? Mail it?”
It's a damned shame. It's a shame that these guys are missing out.
I get calls from these clients thanking me for taking the time...(2
minutes) out of my day to think about them. Oh, and they come in and
buy another car.
I
have all my clients in an e mail database, I have a ton of them on
Facebook, and yes it would save a lot of time and postage to just
bulk email a big “How have you been” to 400 people at the same
time. But, it's just another email. Lost in 50 others they just got.
But when someone goes out and opens the mail box and there, nestled
among the bills and junk is a bright blue envelope, with their name
and address hand written upon it, well, That's special. Someone once
said, If you can count your friends on both hands, you can count
your REAL friends on just one hand, and out of those 5, maybe two are
true friends. Be careful who you share your thoughts, loves,
fears and food pictures with. All of it will be in cyber space, uh,
FOREVER!
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Hope you got something out of that. I hope to be done with the whole thing sometime this year!
Have a Great Day!
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